7 Quick Ways to Empower Your
Husband
It’s not often that one of our husband’s
write a post for the Happy Wives Club,
but when they do, I’m always over the
moon excited!
I don’t know if you’ve found this to be
true, but I’ve noticed most men tend to
have far fewer words to say than us
wives (or is that just in the Weaver
household? ). But when they do say
something, they try to make it count.
There’s no doubt that’s exactly what
Byron Davis with
LiveYourEpicLife.com is doing for us
today.
And I have a feeling if my wonderful
hubby, Keith, happens to stumble
across this page tomorrow, he’s going
to LOVE this post as much as I did.
And hopefully, as much as you will too.
Until tomorrow…make it a great day!
___________
Okay ladies, I’m about to
admit something that you
probably already know - but
us guys like to think you
don’t (wink, wink):
In general, guys like to pretend we are
totally confident 100% of the time, but
the truth is most of us are still little
insecure boys (just with bigger toys).
Why am I admitting this to you? Allow
me to let you in on another little secret:
when you demonstrate to us that you
believe in us, or show that you trust us
to handle things that you care about, it
actually empowers us to keep bringing
our A-game to the relationship.
When we know that you are in our
corner it actually triggers what
behavioral scientist call our “protect
and provide” instincts (otherwise known
as the “hero gene”) and we can’t help
but to let our best selves take the lead
in our life.
You see, at any given moment we can
be:
a. Our defeated self
b. Our average self or
c. Our best self
Believe it or not, what you say to us
carries a tremendous amount of weight.
It either builds us up or tears us down
(you decide). No matter how much we
puff out our chest at times, please
don’t forget, how you empower us
makes all the difference in the world.
With that said, here are 7 stealthy
ways to empower your husband without
him even knowing it:
1. Catch your man doing
something right: Ladies, you take
multitasking to a whole new level.
It amazes us men that you could
be on the phone with your
girlfriend, changing diapers, and
doing the taxes all at the same
time. Meanwhile we find it hard to
locate the can of soup you asked
us to put on the counter (we
swear, the soup was not on that
shelf when we looked for it).
When we actually get the little
things right give us a high five or
fist bump (don’t make a big deal
out of it because you want to
come across like you knew we
could do it all the time). It truly
does go a long way.
2. Pinch his butt : Again, the
power is in the subtlety. When you
flirt with your man it reminds him
that you think “he still has it.”
Because men, generally speaking,
are physical beings by showing
that you still find him attractive it
boosts his self esteem and
increases his emotional
connection with you.
3. Thank him for his dedication to
the family: While we can always
do things better, when we are
acknowledged for effort, and not
just the outcome, it shows that
you appreciate the stuff that went
into making things happen. To
turbo charge your influence with
this tip, tie his efforts to how it
positively impacts the family.
By doing this your man will feel
even more motivated to increase
his consistency and up his game.
4. Lob him a softball (ask his
advice on something- make him
feel like a hero): A super simple
way to do this is to ask him a
question about something he
knows a lot about. When you do
this and connect it directly to a
problem you want solved, your
man will feel appreciated and
validated for the little things he
brings to the relationship.
5. Initiate Sex More Often:
Ladies, this is a big one. No one
likes to feel rejected. When your
husband starts hinting that he’d
like some “play time” with you
please remember that for most
men there was a lot of emotional
ramping up before hand just to
approach you. Even if you’ve been
married to your husband for 30
years, please realize that he
probably still must overcome the
fear of rejection whenever he asks
you the big question.
To offset this simple fact, initiate
1 out of every 4 or 5 times .
Guess what? He will always be
amazed and it will never get old.
When you take the initiative in this
area from time to time, not only
does it subtly reinforce in his mind
what he means to you, studies
show his confidence in other
areas of life instantly increase as
well.
6. Quote him to your friends: My
wife uses this one on me a lot,
and it works like a charm every
time. It’s one thing to share some
advice that you got from an expert
out of some book, but it’s a whole
other thing entirely when the
resident expert is you hubby.
Try it for yourself. The next time
you are at a dinner party and you
are engaging in small talk with
another couple say something like,
“my husband always says…” and
watch how it lights him up. You’ll
make him think that he’s the most
interesting man in the world!
7. Trust him with something he
currently is convinced you don’t: I
saved the most potent, ninja
technique for last. It just might
require more confidence from you
than you’ve given him in awhile.
Look, we men get it; you are great
at biting the bullet and getting
stuff done. You are so good at it
that in most cases you find it
easier to just take it all on
yourself.
You’ve learned that if you want to
make sure it’s done, you’ll just go
ahead and do it yourself. But, if
you want to boost your man’s
confidence and sense of
contribution to the family, trust
him to do something he knows you
are a little afraid to let go of.
Yeah he may have let you down in
the past. I say that’s all the more
reason to give him another shot.
When he realizes that something
means a lot to you and that you
trust him to accomplish it, it will
cause him to tap into new wells
of efficacy that take his game to
the next level. Heck, he may even
be surprised at just how good he
could be.
Davis Byron
Husband
It’s not often that one of our husband’s
but when they do, I’m always over the
moon excited!
I don’t know if you’ve found this to be
true, but I’ve noticed most men tend to
have far fewer words to say than us
wives (or is that just in the Weaver
household? ). But when they do say
something, they try to make it count.
There’s no doubt that’s exactly what
Byron Davis with
LiveYourEpicLife.com is doing for us
today.
And I have a feeling if my wonderful
hubby, Keith, happens to stumble
across this page tomorrow, he’s going
to LOVE this post as much as I did.
And hopefully, as much as you will too.
Until tomorrow…make it a great day!
___________
Okay ladies, I’m about to
admit something that you
probably already know - but
us guys like to think you
don’t (wink, wink):
In general, guys like to pretend we are
totally confident 100% of the time, but
the truth is most of us are still little
insecure boys (just with bigger toys).
Why am I admitting this to you? Allow
me to let you in on another little secret:
when you demonstrate to us that you
believe in us, or show that you trust us
to handle things that you care about, it
actually empowers us to keep bringing
our A-game to the relationship.
When we know that you are in our
corner it actually triggers what
behavioral scientist call our “protect
and provide” instincts (otherwise known
as the “hero gene”) and we can’t help
but to let our best selves take the lead
in our life.
You see, at any given moment we can
be:
a. Our defeated self
b. Our average self or
c. Our best self
Believe it or not, what you say to us
carries a tremendous amount of weight.
It either builds us up or tears us down
(you decide). No matter how much we
puff out our chest at times, please
don’t forget, how you empower us
makes all the difference in the world.
With that said, here are 7 stealthy
ways to empower your husband without
him even knowing it:
1. Catch your man doing
something right: Ladies, you take
multitasking to a whole new level.
It amazes us men that you could
be on the phone with your
girlfriend, changing diapers, and
doing the taxes all at the same
time. Meanwhile we find it hard to
locate the can of soup you asked
us to put on the counter (we
swear, the soup was not on that
shelf when we looked for it).
When we actually get the little
things right give us a high five or
fist bump (don’t make a big deal
out of it because you want to
come across like you knew we
could do it all the time). It truly
does go a long way.
2. Pinch his butt : Again, the
power is in the subtlety. When you
flirt with your man it reminds him
that you think “he still has it.”
Because men, generally speaking,
are physical beings by showing
that you still find him attractive it
boosts his self esteem and
increases his emotional
connection with you.
3. Thank him for his dedication to
the family: While we can always
do things better, when we are
acknowledged for effort, and not
just the outcome, it shows that
you appreciate the stuff that went
into making things happen. To
turbo charge your influence with
this tip, tie his efforts to how it
positively impacts the family.
By doing this your man will feel
even more motivated to increase
his consistency and up his game.
4. Lob him a softball (ask his
advice on something- make him
feel like a hero): A super simple
way to do this is to ask him a
question about something he
knows a lot about. When you do
this and connect it directly to a
problem you want solved, your
man will feel appreciated and
validated for the little things he
brings to the relationship.
5. Initiate Sex More Often:
Ladies, this is a big one. No one
likes to feel rejected. When your
husband starts hinting that he’d
like some “play time” with you
please remember that for most
men there was a lot of emotional
ramping up before hand just to
approach you. Even if you’ve been
married to your husband for 30
years, please realize that he
probably still must overcome the
fear of rejection whenever he asks
you the big question.
To offset this simple fact, initiate
1 out of every 4 or 5 times .
Guess what? He will always be
amazed and it will never get old.
When you take the initiative in this
area from time to time, not only
does it subtly reinforce in his mind
what he means to you, studies
show his confidence in other
areas of life instantly increase as
well.
6. Quote him to your friends: My
wife uses this one on me a lot,
and it works like a charm every
time. It’s one thing to share some
advice that you got from an expert
out of some book, but it’s a whole
other thing entirely when the
resident expert is you hubby.
Try it for yourself. The next time
you are at a dinner party and you
are engaging in small talk with
another couple say something like,
“my husband always says…” and
watch how it lights him up. You’ll
make him think that he’s the most
interesting man in the world!
7. Trust him with something he
currently is convinced you don’t: I
saved the most potent, ninja
technique for last. It just might
require more confidence from you
than you’ve given him in awhile.
Look, we men get it; you are great
at biting the bullet and getting
stuff done. You are so good at it
that in most cases you find it
easier to just take it all on
yourself.
You’ve learned that if you want to
make sure it’s done, you’ll just go
ahead and do it yourself. But, if
you want to boost your man’s
confidence and sense of
contribution to the family, trust
him to do something he knows you
are a little afraid to let go of.
Yeah he may have let you down in
the past. I say that’s all the more
reason to give him another shot.
When he realizes that something
means a lot to you and that you
trust him to accomplish it, it will
cause him to tap into new wells
of efficacy that take his game to
the next level. Heck, he may even
be surprised at just how good he
could be.
Davis Byron
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